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What would you DO for your loved ones?

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What would you do for your loved ones? Or should I say, what wouldn’t you do? Either way, I hear people say all the time…” I’d do anything for my family!” WOULD YOU?

Let me pose the question THIS way…

If you would REALLY do ANYTHING for your family, would you quit smoking for them? Would you do whatever it takes to be healthy for them? Would you?

Maybe that sounds harsh but it’s a true reality. I feel like we are becoming a society of DOING the WRONG things for our loved ones. I’d stand in the freezing cold weather to get that one special toy my kid wants for Christmas BUT I won’t stop smoking, drinking or trying to improve my health for them because I don’t have the time or the money!!

Here’s what I say to that. SHAME ON YOU! You owe you and your family to do what it takes to BE THERE for them, to be in their lives for as long as you can and BE healthy!



I’m coming from a place of love, TOUGH LOVE…

Again, maybe this is offending some of you ( and I am not trying to come off that way, this comes from a place of TOUGH LOVE) but I think it needs to be said and you need to hear it loud and clear in order to start seeing it the right way.

I guess when you’ve lost a loved one too soon, or watched them slowly deteriorate in their health it is different. I know too many people who have left this earth too soon and the effects it has had on the living family members is sad. They don’t want their loved ones to go through that. “My parent passed when I was young and it was so hard to handle, I don’t want my kids to have to go through what I went through.” Then WHY aren’t you taking those measures when you have early signs of what your parent dies from?

I come from a family with VERY prominent heart disease. I mean the generation before me starts having their heart attacks in their EARLY 40’s. I was 17 when my dad had his at the ripe “old” age of 41! That was the worst day of my life when my sister told me what happened! I don’t EVER want my kids to go through that!

Get your priorities right!

It took me a while to realize that but it all changed when I had 3 kids to take care of. I was responsible for 3 human beings and I had to set an example. I woke the “eff” up before I had all 3 of them and started to change things in my life. I owed it to them AND myself.

How the hell could I expect to take care of these little people if I couldn’t take care of myself? When I worked in the medical field and drank and smoked my ass off, I had a nurse always ask me that when I would go on a smoke break. “Who’s gonna take care of your little girl when you get sick from smoking?” Oh, that won’t be me I would think. I’m NEVER going to get sick!

That’s what we all think until it happens! Then WHAT? It is so much tougher to try to “get better” once you have a health condition! Why not take measures NOW to prevent things from happening.

Oh I know, we could all get hit by a bus tomorrow so why not LIVE happily and eat what we want, drink what we want and live the way we want. Hey, if that works for you, then cool! I just see it all too often that people aren’t concerned enough to make the little changes in their lives to ensure their own health until it’s too damn late.

I know I have heart disease in my family so I will do whatever it takes to make sure that doesn’t happen to me. I will make sure my son doesn’t have to walk into either of my daughters’ place of work and tell her her mom has had a heart attack!! That was what I was faced with at the age of 17! I won’t let that happen to my kids.


Maybe this will help…do yourself a favor and wake a few minutes to watch this little video and HEAR my story.



It’s not a blame game…

I don’t blame my dad for one second for any of that. Heck, we didn’t know then what we know now. I will tell you that he QUIT smoking and changed up his life. WHY BECAUSE he owed it to himself and his family. That was his defining moment!

I know, I don’t get it, it’s hard and I don’t know what it’s like to be sick! DO you know me? Have you heard my stories? THIS is WHY I preach this. I’m speaking from experience, not judging! I have stories, I have a past and I WANT a future and I want my loved ones to have a future!! I want you to have one too!

I won’t tell you the story of my dad, I’ve already mentioned that. I won’t tell you that we had a scare with my mom and her lung years ago. I won’t tell you that a family member performed CPR on a dying family member. I also won’t tell you that I have had to bring one of my children to a hospital to see a parent on life support. I won’t tell you that we have another family member who is a prisoner to their own home and/or a hospital bed because of failing health. I’m also not going to tell you that I hope you took 3 minutes of your time to watch the video I posted above and just let it sink in. That won’t change your mind…OR will it? It sure the hell changed mine.

I want to see my kids get married. I want to be a grandma who can run and play with those grandbabies. I want to watch my grandkids plays and sporting events. I don’t want to have to drag and oxygen tank with me or be a prisoner to a hospital bed. NO THANK YOU!! THAT is NOT a life I want to have. It tears me up to know a family member that is in that position knowing that it could have been avoidable!



Make the decision NOW to look out for your health! Make the decision NOW before it’s too late or becomes too difficult. YOU OWE YOU!

If and when the good Lord decides it’s my time. I don’t want my family to look back and say, wow the last years of her life were spent in the hospital or spend being sick! I want them to know I did what I could to keep myself healthy and LIVE my life with them! Trust me, I get it, when it’s your time, it’s your time.

That will never happen to me…

Please don’t think you are superman and nothing can ever happen to you. I’m also not saying to live your life in fear of what could happen. I’m saying be smart, get your damn priorities in check and look at the big picture. Some things ARE in your control!!

All the unhealthy habits you may have right now can and will add up over time. So why not make a few daily changes for the better that will also add up and possibly add years to your life and give you the time to have with your family. Don’t wait until it’s too late. TAKE CARE OF YOU!!


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Hey there, I'm Melanie. I help women DITCH THE DIET MENTALITY and reclaim their health through mindful eating, hormone balancing, stress management, and digestive healing.

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