How to Stop Complaining and Change Your Life
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There are some of us out there that complain about everything from the weather to politics. It’s like we thrive on it to keep ourselves going. Can I ask you something? How’s that going for you? Seriously!?! Do you feel like all the complaining is getting you anywhere in life?
Why we complain
We all do it. I’m guilty of being a Negative Nancy from time to time. It’s like the more you complain, the more you have to complain about. Misery loves company guys. complaining is a bit of a learned behavior. It’s become a habit over the years whether your parents were huge complainers or the people you hang out with are, you’ve learned it somewhere.
Did you know…
People who complain on a consistent basis are inclined to have poor health, tend not to do well in their jobs and have relationships that are less satisfying and shorter lasting. Oh, yes, and they are often quite miserable to be around. Again, I ask…How’s that working for you? It’s MISERABLE!! You need to STOP COMPLAINING!
So Why complain?
Heck, most people don’t realize how often they complain because it has become a habit and, like all habits, it tends to be so familiar that it becomes invisible. Secondly, most people feel that it’s a good conversation starter because it’s easier to find common ground by complaining. Remember? MISERY LOVES COMPANY! Lastly, people complain because they want validation for their beliefs. “Can you believe Tommy’s teacher yelled at him when he didn’t do his homework?” This then validates you being right and the teacher is wrong…IS that REALLY the case here. I think Tommy should have done his homework..just saying.
3 Types of Complaining
There are actually three types of complaining so it may be that your complaining is in the norm but then again, it could be you are CONSTANTLY complaining. So much so that no one wants to hang out with you anymore except the other Negative Nellys.
This is the SUPER NEGATIVE NELLY’S out there. A chronic complainer tends to ALWAYS see the glass as half empty. They are never satisfied with things and no matter what is going on in their life or what the situation may be, they will always drift things to the negative side.
I get it, sometimes life sucks. Sometimes you’ll have bad days. BUT, is it really a bad day, bad life, bad everything OR was it just a little 10-20 minute moment that you keep dragging on? I’ve seen some people go through some $hit in life and they still manage to find a smile and keep it on the positive side. You run the show dude! How are you going to do it? Chronically complaining? Life is more than that.
Ahhh, yes, we need to vent sometimes to get things off of our chest. Thing upset us and we have to let it all out. Better out than in, that’s what SHERCK says! I always say it’s ok to let it out, it’s ok to have a bad moment and feel pissy…BUT, it’s not ok to stay stuck there. It’s also not ok if your main reason to vent is to prove you are right and someone else is wrong.
Venting is to release your steam to HELP you not hurt another person. I know, we are all ALWAYS right but it’s not as effective if we vent to hurt another. Let it out, take a breath and then move on kids.
Well, this is the person who is venting to hear themselves speak. It’s as if they aren’t even aware that all they do is complain. Their complaining really isn’t solving anything or helping them to be productive. They complain and they never seem to move on. It really doesn’t get them out of the complaining state. They’ll find something to complain about when the sun is shining and it’s a breezy 72 degrees out there. “This weather sucks!”
We’re all guilty
Yep, I called you out. Hey, I’m even calling myself out. I’ve been guilty of being all three of these people. Sometimes, all in one day. I think life can really kick us in the ass sometimes and that then results in a little complaining. The key is to try and find some kind of solution to what it is that you are complaining about.
See, nothing changes if nothing changes. You may have to look at the person in the mirror and ask yourself what is it that I am really complaining about. Do I just need to get something out and off my chest OR am I CONSTANTLY spewing negative our of my mouth just to hear myself speak? Some people do that ya know?
I truly believe it’s all about our mindset. If we always look at things in a negative way, we’ll always have negative thoughts and remarks. Again…How’s that working for ya?
It might be time to look for the light at the end of the tunnel. Trust me, it’s there. No matter what you’ve been through, what you’re going through or what may even come your way, there is ALWAYS something to be thankful for and something to be positive about.
Too many of us are too damn busy complaining about the rain that we are missing the rainbow. It’s time to start seeing the positive and that starts with YOU! Change your thoughts and you can change your life.
MY CHALLENGE TO YOU:
I have a little challenge for you to take on. This may be more difficult for some than others but I know you can do it. I want you to take on the next 24-hours and NOT COMPLAIN about a single thing. If you catch yourself, stop immediately and go write whatever you were going to complain about on a piece of paper and then RIP IT UP!
Can you do it? I’d love to hear how it went. Comment below or message me.
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