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When I Stopped Searching for Perfection

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When I stopped searching for perfection, things took a turn for the better.

So today I did something that a year ago maybe would have killed me. Well, not literally but I don’t believe I would physically be capable of doing it. It may not have been perfect but it was invigorating if that makes any sense to you.

I pushed myself

Sounds weird. Why would someone push themselves? Well, I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and did a killer workout. Now, some may think it was an easy workout but I could really care less what others think. See, I know that I PUSHED myself past my physical limit. I challenged my body and it SURVIVED. AND, so did I.

A year ago I know I would not have been able to do what I did today. I just wasn’t strong enough. I guess you could say I was still in “recovery” from my back. It has taken me a while to get past, make it through, cope…whatever you want to call it, but I am here today stronger and to me, that’s all that matters.

I could have given up

So this little workout I did was only 5 rounds but I increased the intensity and weights with each round. Sweat was pouring from “all the places”, I was breathing heavy and I almost screamed a few times. I wanted to quit at round 4 and call it done…BUT I wrote it out as 5 rounds and that’s what I committed to.

It was me against me. There was no one there to tell me to keep going, no one to push me through. Just me, myself and I. I did it and there is nothing like the feeling you get after you finish something that you thought would kill you…I’m joking!! Seriously though, it felt awesome to finish.

Why I do it

It’s not about having rock hard abs or looking a certain way. I may never have a booty that is tight and lifted and my arms might always flap in the wind when I wave. I stopped searching for “perfect” a long time ago. It was all in my head as to what I thought I should be able to do or the image I thought I should look like.

It’s not about a look or being able to squat 14 million pounds for one rep for me. It’s about being stronger than I was yesterday. It’s about gaining confidence and feeling accomplished.

No matter what workout I do, I give it a little more than the one before. I do it for ME!

It’s not about perfection

I had to stop trying to be like this one or that one and just be me. I couldn’t compare my day one to someone else’s day 100. In my mind, I had a vision of what I thought things should be or look like and that got me nowhere but frustrated. I was comparing myself to others and wanting something I wasn’t. I would beat myself up and think I was less than “perfect”. Not cool!!

I realized that it WAS all in my head and I was letting those stores hold me back. I had to look at it from a standpoint of progress, not perfection.



It’s all about what you gain

Man, when I looked at things from a standpoint of what I gained, not lost…(because I was always looking for weight loss) I realized I was pretty much a badass. It was a mindset shift that set me the right way.

I gained confidence, strength, a sense of accomplishment and of course a bit more muscle. Sometimes it takes looking back where you were a year ago, a month ago, a week ago to appreciate where you’ve come.

What I’m out to promote

I’m out to empower those who may be feeling the same way I was feeling to realize how strong they really are. Whether I’m training a client in the gym, online or in my home, I want them to realize what they are capable of. I want them to realize that it’s about progress, not perfection and understand that there is no need to compare themselves to anyone or anything.

I know I don’t always talk about the workout side of it all but I feel like physical activity of any kind is a huge aspect of the dimensions of health and wellness.

None of this may make any sense to some yet others may totally be shaking their head YES while reading this. If you can take anything away from this it’s that I want you to know that you are a BADASS and can accomplish anything you set your mind to.



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Hey there, I'm Melanie. I help women DITCH THE DIET MENTALITY and reclaim their health through mindful eating, hormone balancing, stress management, and digestive healing.

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